If you're like many students, college will be the first time you share your living space with someone other than family. This new experience can be both fun and challenging.

如果你和大多數(shù)學(xué)生一樣，大學(xué)將會(huì)是你第一次與家人以外的人分享生活空間。這種新體驗(yàn)既有趣又富有挑戰(zhàn)性。

The Benefits and the Challenges

益處和挑戰(zhàn)

Here are some of the things you can expect:

以下是可以預(yù)見的事情：

  • Company: Your roommate is new to college too, so you can learn how to navigate campus life together.
  • Support: It's nice to have someone who can wake you when you sleep through your alarm or bring you soup when you're sick.
  • New perspectives: Your roommate might introduce you to a different culture or new points of view.
  • Shared activities and interests: You may have a roommate who likes to do the same things as you.
  • Lack of privacy: You may not have the privacy you're used to and may have to seek out places - like the library - to get it.
  • Lifestyle differences: If your roommate's habits, personality or schedule are very different from yours, it can be hard to adjust to living together.
  • 陪伴：你的室友也是大學(xué)新生，你們可以一起學(xué)習(xí)如何度過校園生活。
  • 支持：睡過頭有人把你叫醒，生病時(shí)有人給你帶湯，總歸是樂事一樁。
  • 新視角：你的室友可能會(huì)向你介紹不同的文化或新觀點(diǎn)。
  • 共同的活動(dòng)和興趣：你可能有一個(gè)趣味相投的室友。
  • 缺乏隱私：你習(xí)以為常的隱私可能不復(fù)存在，可能不得不另找私人空間，比如圖書館。
  • 生活方式的差異：如果你與室友的習(xí)慣、性格或日程安排大相徑庭，你們可能很難適應(yīng)共同生活。

Strategies for Success

成功的策略

Communicating often and openly is essential for any successful relationship. If you need help discussing something with your roommate, take advantage of the resources your college provides. Talking to your resident advisor (RA) is a good starting point. Here are some other tips for maintaining a good relationship with your roommate.

在任何一段成功的關(guān)系中，經(jīng)常開誠(chéng)布公的溝通都是至關(guān)重要的。如果你需要?jiǎng)e人幫助來和室友討論事情，可以利用大學(xué)提供的資源，和宿舍舍監(jiān)交談是一個(gè)很好的開始。以下是如何與室友保持良好關(guān)系的小貼士。

Make rules and respect them: A strategy that worked for Alicia, a college freshman, was coming to an agreement with her roommate early in the year that set the boundaries for how they would live together. For example, she and her roommate agreed that if one of them is trying to study, the other won't blare music or will record TV shows to watch later. After you agree on guidelines, respect them.

制定并尊重規(guī)則：這個(gè)策略對(duì)艾麗西亞來說很有效，她是一名大一新生，在年初與室友達(dá)成協(xié)議，為她們?nèi)绾喂餐钤O(shè)定了界限。例如，她和室友達(dá)成一致，如果她們中有人想學(xué)習(xí)，另一個(gè)人就不會(huì)播放音樂，或者錄制電視節(jié)目以后再看。雙方就行為準(zhǔn)則達(dá)成一致后，尊重規(guī)則。

Compromise: You and your roommate won't agree on everything, so you'll both have to make some compromises. For instance, if one of you is messy and the other likes things neat, the untidy one should keep the shared areas of the room clean. And the neat one should overlook untidiness in the roommate's area.

妥協(xié)：你和室友不可能在所有事情上都達(dá)成一致，所以雙方都必須做出妥協(xié)。例如，如果一個(gè)人邋遢，另一個(gè)人愛干凈，邋遢的人應(yīng)該保持房間的共享區(qū)域整潔干凈，而愛干凈的人應(yīng)該忽略室友區(qū)域的雜亂。

Show courtesy: If you behave politely to your roommate, your roommate is likely to follow your lead. Wish your roommate luck on an exam. Ask if you can pick up something while you're running errands. As Axel, a college freshman, says, “When you have to deal with someone every day, … it’s important to stay on good terms.” His advice is to try to make your roommate happy that he or she wound up with you.

禮貌：如果你對(duì)待室友禮貌友好，室友也很可能禮待你。祝室友考試順利。辦事時(shí)問室友是否需要幫忙帶東西。正如大學(xué)新生阿克塞爾所說，“如果每天都要和某個(gè)人打交道，……保持良好的關(guān)系是很重要的。”他的建議是盡力讓室友為你們能成為室友而高興。

Living harmoniously with someone requires communicating, compromising and respecting differences. And mastering these life skills may be the most valuable lessons you’ll learn outside the classroom. As Jessica, a college sophomore, puts it, sharing a space can make you “a new and more open person, and you learn about yourself in the process.”

與人和諧相處需要溝通、妥協(xié)、尊重差異。掌握這些生活技能可能是你在課堂之外學(xué)到的最有價(jià)值的課程。正如大二學(xué)生杰西卡所說，分享空間可以讓你成為“一個(gè)全新的自己、一個(gè)更開放的人，在這個(gè)過程中你也會(huì)更好地了解自己?！?/p>